Life is a crazy ride full of ups and downs. One day we have a good job, a house, and a family to take care of. The next day the job is gone, which makes the house too expensive, which makes the family unhappy. Right now I am coaching someone who has had to start over again after having successful career in just this situation. With corporate buy outs and mergers on the rise, even those who have good jobs in good companies can find themselves in this situation.
What do we do when we have been thrown this type of curve ball? We have to start from scratch.
I have had to start over many, many times in my life. When I was twelve years old my dad left us and it shattered me and the rest of my family. It wasn't the divorce that was bad. It was how it was handled. I was in self-pity, anger, and depression for most of my teens. But I knew I could not stay there. It was a dead end place to be. I fought to get out. I fought to move on with my life. I did, but it was a long journey to possibility.
I've had boyfriends cheat on me, spouses lose their jobs, me get diagnosed with a sleep disorder, and discover my talents were not made to support me financially. In finding out the world is not really what I wanted it to be, people were not who I thought they were, and I was never going to be what I thought I could, I discovered reality.
Now some might say reality is a tough place to live. What I discovered what it is much easier to live in acceptance of reality then in the lies we tell ourselves about it. When I was truly honest with who I was, when I was able to see honestly who others were, and what this world was about, I was able to work with it instead of against it. I moved out of the problems and into solutions.
When I wrote The Possibility Path I was at the beginning of opening up my own possibilities for my reality. 5 years later and I am still there, living it. Every day, every moment, I am living in the reality of possibility, of solution, of answers, of coaching myself out of fear and self-pity into one of answers and solutions. It's a good place to be.
Life will throw us all curve balls. I know there are more waiting for me! But when it does I now have the tools and understanding to see life as it is, and find the possibility within each situation as it comes.
I could not be where I am without The Possibility Path and the book from which it came. (Due out next year.) I am forever grateful and forever aware of the wonders of this world and how I can quickly and simply change my perspective and find my way. That is a gift.
As I move into opening up my creative life to just being me and The Possibility Path to being its own thing, I am blessed to have you on my journey! Thanks for being there as we all open up to a little more possibility!
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In today's busy world balance is a foreign world. How to juggle all we have going on and stay happy and sane, much less balanced?
There is a new buzz phrase in business these days: work/life balance. It refers to work not taking up your whole life and allowing you to have a life! It used to be we worked to put food on the table and some clothes on our backs and have a roof over our heads. Now we work to pay insurance, cell phone bills (with enough data to handle the kids texting), Netflix, after school programs, our parent's now or future needs, and maybe maybe put some away for our 401K or kids' college. No wonder we work so much!
On top of all that we have these amazing expectations we are to live only the life we dream and anything less is not worthwhile. We are to be our purpose, save the world, save each others, and feel guilty if we fall short of it all. Oh- and Instagram it so people like it and follow us on that world stage that is always watching. So the life part has become work too!
When I discovered mindfulness it was the most freeing thing. I am an ambitious, creative, ADD, idea person by nature and I come form a family of perfectionist over achieving performers.
So the idea that I could just breathe and be seemed counter intuitive to me. Aren't I supposed to be doing to be happy? Aren't I supposed to get somewhere, do something? Aren't I supposed to be working? Nope.
The simplest form of mindfulness is just breathing and being. No fixing. No creating. No doing. It was weird. But the first time I did it I was in the middle of a panic attack and I had no other choice. I had to get control of myself and my perfectionist emotions or I was going to completely lose control. I went for a drive to clear my head and found mindfulness.
I breathed. I looked around. I actually said out loud "I see trees. They are green. I see the brown road. I hear birds. I feel my heart racing. I am alive. I am breathing. The sky is blue. The ground is brown." and soon I could feel I would be okay.
It was an amazing moment. I had pulled myself out of the hamster wheel that lives in my head and sometimes cannot stop on its own and into a place of Zen where I could just be. I went back inside my house to deal with the mother-in-law situation that had driven me into anxiety and handled the day in balance. Not in perfect balance, but in better balance than before. And that was enough.
Today it seems we all could use a bit more better balance. May you find the moment to breathe and just be - even if it means becoming a toddler again and naming the colors of the things you see out loud to yourself while driving down the road!
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